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17 connected korrents · 15 moments from 21 Sept 2017 to 4 Oct 2026.
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design Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Read this korrent: What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most. What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most. Last stated 4 weeks ago
1 Oct 2026
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Ava Huang — holds since 2026-10-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Many people never work out what they themselves like; they like what they are supposed to like and live up to other people's expectations. — tap to centre the map on it Many people never work out what they themselves like; they like what they are supposed to like and live up to other people's expectations. Last stated 8 months ago
15 Feb 2026
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Jason Fried — holds since 2026-02-15 — tap for who they are
Same subject: The expectations we now bring to a partner are contradictory or incompatible, which is a setup for failure. — tap to centre the map on it The expectations we now bring to a partner are contradictory or incompatible, which is a setup for failure. Last stated 9 years ago
21 Sept 2017
EP
Esther Perel — holds since 2017-09-21 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Love, desire and relationships are not commodities that can be replaced when they disappoint. — tap to centre the map on it Love, desire and relationships are not commodities that can be replaced when they disappoint. Last stated 9 years ago
21 Sept 2017
EP
Esther Perel — holds since 2017-09-21 — tap for who they are
Same subject: What matters is a point of view and human intuition about what the experience should be, which needs to come through, more than taste. — tap to centre the map on it What matters is a point of view and human intuition about what the experience should be, which needs to come through, more than taste. Last stated 4 months ago
24 Jun 2026
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Loredana Crisan — holds since 2026-06-24 — tap for who they are
Same subject: We hope things turn out as we want but fail to do what is needed to make them real — tap to centre the map on it We hope things turn out as we want but fail to do what is needed to make them real
JW
John Wooden — holds since c. 2001 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Humans like to be with other humans, and that very real phenomenon will matter as AI changes work. — tap to centre the map on it Humans like to be with other humans, and that very real phenomenon will matter as AI changes work. Last stated 4 months ago
29 Jun 2026
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Daniela Amodei — holds since 2026-06-29 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Beauty and utility are not necessarily in opposition but often function together. — tap to centre the map on it Beauty and utility are not necessarily in opposition but often function together. Last stated 2 years ago
26 Nov 2024
PS
Patrik Schumacher — holds since 2024-11-26 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Liking and loving act as a conditioning device that makes the lover ignore faults, comply with wishes, favor associated things and distort other facts — tap to centre the map on it Liking and loving act as a conditioning device that makes the lover ignore faults, comply with wishes, favor associated things and distort other facts
CM
Charlie Munger — holds since c. 2005 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A belief system combining cosmic stakes, privileged knowledge, personal vocation and an imperative to act can license extraordinary behavior when it conflicts with ordinary constraints. — tap to centre the map on it A belief system combining cosmic stakes, privileged knowledge, personal vocation and an imperative to act can license extraordinary behavior when it conflicts with ordinary constraints. Last stated a month ago
17 Sept 2026
VR
Venkatesh Rao — holds since 2026-09-17 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A cancellation-reason drop-down measures list order rather than reasons: randomise the options and every one of them gets picked equally. — tap to centre the map on it A cancellation-reason drop-down measures list order rather than reasons: randomise the options and every one of them gets picked equally. Last stated 9 months ago
25 Jan 2026
JC
Jason Cohen — holds since 2026-01-25 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A decision cannot be judged by its outcome, because good decisions fail through no fault of the decider and bad ones succeed by luck. — tap to centre the map on it A decision cannot be judged by its outcome, because good decisions fail through no fault of the decider and bad ones succeed by luck. Last stated 4 years ago
9 Aug 2022
GK
Gary Klein — holds since 2022-08-09 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A big part of taste is delivering high levels of craft in an accessible way so that as many people as possible can experience it. — tap to centre the map on it A big part of taste is delivering high levels of craft in an accessible way so that as many people as possible can experience it. Last stated 6 months ago
21 Apr 2026
BJ
Brandon Jacoby — holds since 2026-04-21 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A company name can have different appeal to corporate buyers versus their customers. — tap to centre the map on it A company name can have different appeal to corporate buyers versus their customers. Last stated 3 weeks ago
4 Oct 2026
PG
Paul Graham — holds since 2026-10-04 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A first draft should not be graded good or bad; it is only the material that taste then gets to act on. — tap to centre the map on it A first draft should not be graded good or bad; it is only the material that taste then gets to act on. Last stated 3 months ago
6 Aug 2026
GS
George Saunders — holds since 2026-08-06 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A $1,299, 100-gram pair of slip-on glasses seems far more enticing than a $3,699, 700-gram headset strapped to the face. — tap to centre the map on it A $1,299, 100-gram pair of slip-on glasses seems far more enticing than a $3,699, 700-gram headset strapped to the face. Last stated a month ago
24 Sept 2026
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M.G. Siegler — holds since 2026-09-24 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A baby-step version of eval-driven design is to sketch out 10 to 20 hero flows and run the feature or interaction through them to see where it falls apart. — tap to centre the map on it A baby-step version of eval-driven design is to sketch out 10 to 20 hero flows and run the feature or interaction through them to see where it falls apart. Last stated 2 months ago
9 Sept 2026
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Ed Bayes — holds since 2026-09-09 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A blank chat box is lazy: it violates the first rule of a good user experience, that it is obvious what you can do. — tap to centre the map on it A blank chat box is lazy: it violates the first rule of a good user experience, that it is obvious what you can do. Last stated a year ago
12 May 2025
JZ
Julie Zhuo — holds since 2025-05-12 — tap for who they are
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What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most.
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Many people never work out what they themselves like; they like what they are supposed to like and live up to other people's expectations.
Holds
The expectations we now bring to a partner are contradictory or incompatible, which is a setup for failure.
Holds
Love, desire and relationships are not commodities that can be replaced when they disappoint.
Holds
What matters is a point of view and human intuition about what the experience should be, which needs to come through, more than taste.
Holds
We hope things turn out as we want but fail to do what is needed to make them real
Last stated c. 2001
Holds
Humans like to be with other humans, and that very real phenomenon will matter as AI changes work.
Holds
Beauty and utility are not necessarily in opposition but often function together.
Holds
Liking and loving act as a conditioning device that makes the lover ignore faults, comply with wishes, favor associated things and distort other facts
Last stated c. 2005
Holds
A belief system combining cosmic stakes, privileged knowledge, personal vocation and an imperative to act can license extraordinary behavior when it conflicts with ordinary constraints.
Holds
A cancellation-reason drop-down measures list order rather than reasons: randomise the options and every one of them gets picked equally.
Holds
A decision cannot be judged by its outcome, because good decisions fail through no fault of the decider and bad ones succeed by luck.
Holds
A big part of taste is delivering high levels of craft in an accessible way so that as many people as possible can experience it.
Holds
A company name can have different appeal to corporate buyers versus their customers.
Holds
A first draft should not be graded good or bad; it is only the material that taste then gets to act on.
Holds
A $1,299, 100-gram pair of slip-on glasses seems far more enticing than a $3,699, 700-gram headset strapped to the face.
Holds
A baby-step version of eval-driven design is to sketch out 10 to 20 hero flows and run the feature or interaction through them to see where it falls apart.
Holds
A blank chat box is lazy: it violates the first rule of a good user experience, that it is obvious what you can do.
Holds