Sue Johnson
Clinical psychologist and the developer of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples; author of Hold Me Tight.
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Their wordsWhat you have in couples therapy is an amazing arena for change.
↗208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch)podcasts.apple.com 1st of 4 in this recording
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Their wordswhen you change a relationship, the partners start to change each other because they start to create a safe connection, and that's the natural place people grow
↗208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch)podcasts.apple.com 2nd of 4 in this recording
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Their wordswe create a corrective emotional experience of accessibility and responsiveness where people can talk about their basic fears and get support from the other person and their basic needs
↗208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch)podcasts.apple.com 3rd of 4 in this recording
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Their wordsWe get depressed when we're facing our vulnerability alone
↗208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch)podcasts.apple.com 4th of 4 in this recording
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Their wordsromantic love is an attachment bond, much like we have with parents
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 1st of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsThe missing puzzle piece is you don't have to teach skills.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 2nd of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsThe need to connect with another human being is the biggest instinct.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 3rd of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsemotional isolation is inherently traumatizing in itself
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 4th of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsAnd it's the dance that's the problem. They're just human beings.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 5th of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsShe's not depressed. She's heartbroken.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 6th of 8 in this recording
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Our reading
A couples therapist starts by validating where people are, not by asking them to be vulnerable.
Their wordswe don't start with saying to people, please be vulnerable. We start with validating where they are.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 7th of 8 in this recording
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Their wordsWe've evoked it and we regulate it at the same time.
↗Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson)podcasts.apple.com 8th of 8 in this recording