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16 connected korrents · 15 moments on record from 3 Jul 2013 to 14 Sept 2026.
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9 Mar 2024
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Mark Manson — holds since 2024-03-09 — tap for who they are
Same subject: When someone gets the same negative reaction from many different people, the more likely explanation is their own behavior, not everyone else's. — tap to centre the map on it When someone gets the same negative reaction from many different people, the more likely explanation is their own behavior, not everyone else's. Last stated a week ago
14 Sept 2026
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Ava Huang — holds since 2026-09-14 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A self-destructive habit is best broken by naming the version of yourself that has it and taking its authority to decide away. — tap to centre the map on it A self-destructive habit is best broken by naming the version of yourself that has it and taking its authority to decide away. Last stated 8 months ago
21 Jan 2026
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Bryan Johnson — holds since 2026-01-21 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Treating people as incapable of governing themselves makes it easier to justify governing them without their consent. — tap to centre the map on it Treating people as incapable of governing themselves makes it easier to justify governing them without their consent. Last stated a week ago
13 Sept 2026
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Rob Henderson — holds since 2026-09-13 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Blaming and shaming people only makes them defensive, dig in their heels, or tune out, rather than change their minds. — tap to centre the map on it Blaming and shaming people only makes them defensive, dig in their heels, or tune out, rather than change their minds. Last stated 3 months ago
9 Jun 2026
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Adam Grant — holds since 2026-06-09 — tap for who they are
Same subject: People who are highly narcissistic do not make the best friends, even if they are popular at first. — tap to centre the map on it People who are highly narcissistic do not make the best friends, even if they are popular at first. Last stated 2 weeks ago
10 Sept 2026
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Rob Henderson — holds since 2026-09-10 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Getting intensely worked up over how someone else lives is a sign to re-evaluate yourself, not them. — tap to centre the map on it Getting intensely worked up over how someone else lives is a sign to re-evaluate yourself, not them. Last stated 3 weeks ago
31 Aug 2026
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Chris Coyier — holds since 2026-08-31 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Justifying cruelty toward another person requires first reducing them to an abstraction rather than a full human being. — tap to centre the map on it Justifying cruelty toward another person requires first reducing them to an abstraction rather than a full human being. Last stated 8 months ago
14 Jan 2026
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Brandon Taylor — holds since 2026-01-14 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A builder asked to addict users should leave, because there are always other jobs and no amount of money is worth tearing up the fabric of a society. — tap to centre the map on it A builder asked to addict users should leave, because there are always other jobs and no amount of money is worth tearing up the fabric of a society. Last stated 3 months ago
7 Jun 2026
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Tony Fadell — holds since 2026-06-07 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A profit motive inside a game holds players there long past the point where they are still enjoying it. — tap to centre the map on it A profit motive inside a game holds players there long past the point where they are still enjoying it. Last stated 8 years ago
30 Jan 2019
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Raph Koster — holds since 2019-01-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A slot machine triggers the brain’s learning and curiosity pathways while teaching nothing, and that one-way exchange is what makes it contemptuous of the player. — tap to centre the map on it A slot machine triggers the brain’s learning and curiosity pathways while teaching nothing, and that one-way exchange is what makes it contemptuous of the player. Last stated 13 years ago
3 Jul 2013
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Raph Koster — holds since 2013-07-03 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded. — tap to centre the map on it Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
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Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff. — tap to centre the map on it Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
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Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist. — tap to centre the map on it Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
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Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". — tap to centre the map on it "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". Last stated 13 years ago
2 Oct 2013
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Jonathan Shedler — holds since 2013-10-02 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it. — tap to centre the map on it A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it. Last stated 3 months ago
5 Jul 2026
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Awais Aftab — holds since 2026-07-05 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. — tap to centre the map on it A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. Last stated 2 years ago
11 Sept 2024
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Scott D. Miller — holds since 2024-09-11 — tap for who they are
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How a person treats themselves determines who they let into their life and how those people treat them.
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When someone gets the same negative reaction from many different people, the more likely explanation is their own behavior, not everyone else's.
Holds
A self-destructive habit is best broken by naming the version of yourself that has it and taking its authority to decide away.
Holds
Treating people as incapable of governing themselves makes it easier to justify governing them without their consent.
Holds
Blaming and shaming people only makes them defensive, dig in their heels, or tune out, rather than change their minds.
Holds
People who are highly narcissistic do not make the best friends, even if they are popular at first.
Holds
Getting intensely worked up over how someone else lives is a sign to re-evaluate yourself, not them.
Holds
Justifying cruelty toward another person requires first reducing them to an abstraction rather than a full human being.
Holds
A builder asked to addict users should leave, because there are always other jobs and no amount of money is worth tearing up the fabric of a society.
Holds
A profit motive inside a game holds players there long past the point where they are still enjoying it.
Holds
A slot machine triggers the brain’s learning and curiosity pathways while teaching nothing, and that one-way exchange is what makes it contemptuous of the player.
Holds
Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded.
Holds
Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff.
Holds
Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist.
Holds
"Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic".
Holds
A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it.
Holds
A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work.
Holds