Rob Henderson
Psychologist and writer. Author of the memoir Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class, and of a newsletter on human nature, psychology, social class and what he calls luxury beliefs.
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Their wordsThat is what good technology should do. It should make your life better without asking you to spend more time thinking about the technology itself.
↗Social Paradox, Confession, Bedroom Generationrobkhenderson.com
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Their wordsMaybe people stop caring what others think as they get older.
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There is a tension between the praise for hard work and the contempt for people who visibly do it.
Their wordsAs I will explain, this controversy continues to expose a tension between our praise for hard work and our contempt for people who visibly do it.
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Their wordsKindness has to be cultivated, and this only happens when it is in demand.
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Expecting a layoff in advance provides little psychological protection against its effects.
Their wordsBeing mentally prepared didn't provide much protection. The effects of job loss looked remarkably similar.
↗Your Job Gives You More Than Moneyrobkhenderson.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Finding a new job is the most effective remedy for the psychological harm of unemployment.
Their wordsBut the most powerful remedy for the stress of unemployment is getting back to work.
↗Your Job Gives You More Than Moneyrobkhenderson.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsBy four years of age, girls tend to think that boys are academically inferior to them. Teachers often see their female students as academically superior, even when aptitude tests show the opposite pattern for their classes.
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Their wordsA choice exists at the scale of a person thinking, weighing and deciding. Looking at the molecules underneath and finding no choice there doesn't prove that choice is an illusion.
↗Apparently Criminals Don’t Have Free Will, But Elites Dorobkhenderson.com 1st of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsThe deniers of free will haven't improved society. They have merely produced a more forgiving vocabulary for those who damage it.
↗Apparently Criminals Don’t Have Free Will, But Elites Dorobkhenderson.com 2nd of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsonce a person is no longer regarded as capable of governing himself, it becomes easier to justify governing him without his consent.
↗Apparently Criminals Don’t Have Free Will, But Elites Dorobkhenderson.com 3rd of 3 in this piece
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The United States is unusual among nations in letting legacy status influence college admissions.
Their wordsThe United States is the only nation in the world with colleges that use legacy status as a factor in admissions.
↗Marriageable Women, Informants, Ego-Shockrobkhenderson.com 1st of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsGay men tend to rack up many more sexual partners than straight men. On the other side, lesbians tend to have fewer partners than straight women, despite the fact that lesbians don't have to worry about accidental pregnancies.
↗Marriageable Women, Informants, Ego-Shockrobkhenderson.com 2nd of 3 in this piece
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People who are highly narcissistic do not make the best friends, even if they are popular at first.
Their wordsPeople who love themselves the most do not make the best friends.
↗Marriageable Women, Informants, Ego-Shockrobkhenderson.com 3rd of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsWe may not be able to remove the desire for status, but we can change what earns status.
↗Some Status Games Are Worth Playingrobkhenderson.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsThis is why people can defend ideas they do not truly hold, and punish dissenters they may secretly agree with.
↗Some Status Games Are Worth Playingrobkhenderson.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
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In nearly every society, men are killed at higher rates than women, usually by other men.
Their wordsIn almost every society on Earth, men are more likely than women to be murdered. Most of the time, the killer is a man as well.
↗Bad Strategy, First-World Problems, Heterodox Datingrobkhenderson.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsHappier couples tend to give each other the benefit of the doubt. Rather than assuming "My partner doesn't care," they're more likely to consider that the other is tired, distracted, overwhelmed or simply unaware of the impact of their behavior.
↗Bad Strategy, First-World Problems, Heterodox Datingrobkhenderson.com 2nd of 2 in this piece