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happiness Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Same subject Read this korrent: A partner's difficult trait becomes tolerable only if their good qualities outweigh it and you don't feel alone dealing with its effects. A partner's difficult trait becomes tolerable only if their good qualities outweigh it and you don't feel alone dealing with its effects. Last stated 2 months ago
20 Sept 2026
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Haley Nahman — holds since 2026-09-20 — tap for who they are
Same subject: The expectations we now bring to a partner are contradictory or incompatible, which is a setup for failure. — tap to centre the map on it The expectations we now bring to a partner are contradictory or incompatible, which is a setup for failure. Last stated 9 years ago
21 Sept 2017
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Esther Perel — holds since 2017-09-21 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Finding a good spouse depends more on one's orientation toward building relationships and spotting non-trivial compatible traits than on matching a status checklist — tap to centre the map on it Finding a good spouse depends more on one's orientation toward building relationships and spotting non-trivial compatible traits than on matching a status checklist Last stated 3 years ago
10 Jun 2023
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Jacob Falkovich — holds since 2023-06-10 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A habit only survives difficulty if the person enjoys it, which makes enjoyment a better predictor of persistence than discipline. — tap to centre the map on it A habit only survives difficulty if the person enjoys it, which makes enjoyment a better predictor of persistence than discipline. Last stated 10 months ago
1 Jan 2026
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James Clear — holds since 2026-01-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: What makes a relationship worth having is the other person's quirks and small annoyances, which is exactly what we will edit out of artificial companions. — tap to centre the map on it What makes a relationship worth having is the other person's quirks and small annoyances, which is exactly what we will edit out of artificial companions. Last stated 3 years ago
29 Jun 2023
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George Hotz — holds since 2023-06-29 — tap for who they are
Same subject: What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most. — tap to centre the map on it What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most. Last stated a month ago
1 Oct 2026
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Ava Huang — holds since 2026-10-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Total freedom does not make you happy; constraints do. — tap to centre the map on it Total freedom does not make you happy; constraints do. Last stated 2 years ago
20 Aug 2024
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David Heinemeier Hansson — holds since 2022-08-08 — tap for who they are
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Pieter Levels — holds since 2024-08-20 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Difficulties show what people are, like a trainer matching a wrestler with a rough opponent — tap to centre the map on it Difficulties show what people are, like a trainer matching a wrestler with a rough opponent
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Epictetus — holds since c. 89–135 CE — tap for who they are
Same subject: Many people never work out what they themselves like; they like what they are supposed to like and live up to other people's expectations. — tap to centre the map on it Many people never work out what they themselves like; they like what they are supposed to like and live up to other people's expectations. Last stated 9 months ago
15 Feb 2026
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Jason Fried — holds since 2026-02-15 — tap for who they are
Same subject: "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". — tap to centre the map on it "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". Last stated 13 years ago
2 Oct 2013
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Jonathan Shedler — holds since 2013-10-02 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A couples therapist starts by validating where people are, not by asking them to be vulnerable. — tap to centre the map on it A couples therapist starts by validating where people are, not by asking them to be vulnerable. Last stated 3 years ago
15 May 2023
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Sue Johnson — holds since 2023-05-15 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A culture that emphasizes self-esteem over self-knowledge leaves people less equipped to resist doing monstrous things. — tap to centre the map on it A culture that emphasizes self-esteem over self-knowledge leaves people less equipped to resist doing monstrous things. Last stated a year ago
8 Sept 2025
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Guy Spier — holds since 2025-09-08 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. — tap to centre the map on it A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. Last stated 2 years ago
11 Sept 2024
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Scott D. Miller — holds since 2024-09-11 — tap for who they are
Same subject: EMDR gives clinicians an efficient way to address psychological and physical symptoms stemming from adverse life experiences. — tap to centre the map on it EMDR gives clinicians an efficient way to address psychological and physical symptoms stemming from adverse life experiences. Last stated 13 years ago
1 Mar 2014
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Francine Shapiro — holds since 2014-03-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: EMDR is an eight-phase treatment that starts with history-taking to find the memories and current situations that need addressing. — tap to centre the map on it EMDR is an eight-phase treatment that starts with history-taking to find the memories and current situations that need addressing. Last stated 16 years ago
19 Mar 2011
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Francine Shapiro — holds since 2011-03-19 — tap for who they are
Same subject: How EMDR works is still being discovered, and the proposed mechanisms are not mutually exclusive. — tap to centre the map on it How EMDR works is still being discovered, and the proposed mechanisms are not mutually exclusive. Last stated 9 years ago
by 27 Oct 2017
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Arielle Schwartz — holds since 2017-10-27 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Somebody with trauma should try a trauma-focused therapy such as EMDR before treating their nightmares directly. — tap to centre the map on it Somebody with trauma should try a trauma-focused therapy such as EMDR before treating their nightmares directly. Last stated 4 years ago
16 Jun 2022
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Scott Alexander — holds since 2022-06-16 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Successful trauma treatment requires building tolerance for the emotions and body sensations that accompany the memories. — tap to centre the map on it Successful trauma treatment requires building tolerance for the emotions and body sensations that accompany the memories. Last stated 9 years ago
by 12 May 2017
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Arielle Schwartz — holds since 2017-05-12 — tap for who they are