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1 Jan 2026
JC
James Clear — holds since 2026-01-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: What people care about in their own identity is continuity, not similarity -- they accept enormous drift so long as the thread is unbroken. — tap to centre the map on it What people care about in their own identity is continuity, not similarity -- they accept enormous drift so long as the thread is unbroken. Last stated 3 weeks ago
20 Aug 2026
MH
Max Hodak — holds since 2026-08-20 — tap for who they are
Same subject: When accuracy and belonging conflict, most people take the belief that keeps them accepted by their community. — tap to centre the map on it When accuracy and belonging conflict, most people take the belief that keeps them accepted by their community. Last stated 8 months ago
1 Jan 2026
JC
James Clear — holds since 2026-01-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Breaking through a skill plateau requires unlearning beliefs and conventions that are wrong or narrower than assumed. — tap to centre the map on it Breaking through a skill plateau requires unlearning beliefs and conventions that are wrong or narrower than assumed. Last stated 4 years ago
9 Aug 2022
GK
Gary Klein — holds since 2022-08-09 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Habits stick because every repetition casts a vote for an identity, not because of the outcome any single repetition produces. — tap to centre the map on it Habits stick because every repetition casts a vote for an identity, not because of the outcome any single repetition produces. Last stated 8 months ago
1 Jan 2026
JC
James Clear — holds since 2026-01-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Opening a fixed relational pattern takes two things: the implicit made explicit, and the person's own recoil from what they see. — tap to centre the map on it Opening a fixed relational pattern takes two things: the implicit made explicit, and the person's own recoil from what they see. Last stated 3 years ago
11 Aug 2023
TR
Terry Real — holds since 2023-08-11 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Merging back what a copy of yourself learned elsewhere is dangerous: the knowledge you pull in can carry hidden goals and take you over. — tap to centre the map on it Merging back what a copy of yourself learned elsewhere is dangerous: the knowledge you pull in can carry hidden goals and take you over. Last stated 11 months ago
26 Sept 2025
RS
Richard Sutton — holds since 2025-09-26 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Belief and behavior run in both directions, so the more reliable way to change what someone believes about themselves is to act first. — tap to centre the map on it Belief and behavior run in both directions, so the more reliable way to change what someone believes about themselves is to act first. Last stated 8 months ago
1 Jan 2026
JC
James Clear — holds since 2026-01-01 — tap for who they are
Same subject: People cannot thrive while their primary psychological identification is with the news cycle rather than with their own lives. — tap to centre the map on it People cannot thrive while their primary psychological identification is with the news cycle rather than with their own lives. Last stated 5 years ago
by 16 Aug 2021
OB
Oliver Burkeman — holds since 2021-08-16 — tap for who they are
Same subject: "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". — tap to centre the map on it "Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic". Last stated 13 years ago
2 Oct 2013
JS
Jonathan Shedler — holds since 2013-10-02 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it. — tap to centre the map on it A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it. Last stated 2 months ago
5 Jul 2026
AA
Awais Aftab — holds since 2026-07-05 — tap for who they are
Same subject: A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. — tap to centre the map on it A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work. Last stated 2 years ago
11 Sept 2024
SM
Scott D. Miller — holds since 2024-09-11 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded. — tap to centre the map on it Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
WB
Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff. — tap to centre the map on it Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
WB
Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist. — tap to centre the map on it Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist. Last stated 6 years ago
30 Jul 2020
WB
Wendy Behary — holds since 2020-07-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: Action comes before motivation: you do first and feel afterwards, not the other way round. — tap to centre the map on it Action comes before motivation: you do first and feel afterwards, not the other way round. Last stated 11 months ago
30 Sept 2025
LF
Lex Fridman — holds since 2025-09-30 — tap for who they are
Same subject: No research ever showed manualized CBT to be more effective than psychodynamic therapy; it was only studied more often. — tap to centre the map on it No research ever showed manualized CBT to be more effective than psychodynamic therapy; it was only studied more often. Last stated 13 years ago
2 Oct 2013
JS
Jonathan Shedler — holds since 2013-10-02 — tap for who they are
At the centre
The tighter someone clings to an identity, the harder it becomes to grow beyond it, so identity drives change and then blocks the next one.
Holds JC James ClearRead this korrent →
What people care about in their own identity is continuity, not similarity -- they accept enormous drift so long as the thread is unbroken.
Holds MH Max Hodak
When accuracy and belonging conflict, most people take the belief that keeps them accepted by their community.
Holds JC James Clear
Breaking through a skill plateau requires unlearning beliefs and conventions that are wrong or narrower than assumed.
Holds GK Gary Klein
Habits stick because every repetition casts a vote for an identity, not because of the outcome any single repetition produces.
Holds JC James Clear
Opening a fixed relational pattern takes two things: the implicit made explicit, and the person's own recoil from what they see.
Holds TR Terry Real
Merging back what a copy of yourself learned elsewhere is dangerous: the knowledge you pull in can carry hidden goals and take you over.
Holds RS Richard Sutton
Belief and behavior run in both directions, so the more reliable way to change what someone believes about themselves is to act first.
Holds JC James Clear
People cannot thrive while their primary psychological identification is with the news cycle rather than with their own lives.
Holds OB Oliver Burkeman
"Evidence-based therapy" is a branding term rather than a scientific one, and in practice it is a code word for "not psychodynamic".
Holds JS Jonathan Shedler
A prescriber cannot outsource containment to the therapy hour: the emotional and relational dynamics are part of prescribing, not an intrusion on it.
Holds AA Awais Aftab
A therapy is only shown to be more effective if it is compared against another treatment intended to help, not against a control nobody expected to work.
Holds SM Scott D. Miller
Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded.
Holds WB Wendy Behary
Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff.
Holds WB Wendy Behary
Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist.
Holds WB Wendy Behary
Action comes before motivation: you do first and feel afterwards, not the other way round.
Holds LF Lex Fridman
No research ever showed manualized CBT to be more effective than psychodynamic therapy; it was only studied more often.
Holds JS Jonathan Shedler