Psychotherapist, founder of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and co-director of the Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. Trained with Jeffrey Young from 1989 and wrote Disarming the Narcissist.
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Their wordsthe approach that I use is called Schema Therapy, and Schema Therapy is designed to work with very complex personality types, personality disorders, and even those that are happening along a spectrum
Feeling with someone is not the same as telling them their feelings are valid. Empathy can be chosen, and a therapist who only validates stops being a companion.
Their wordsAnd no one should feel burdened to become the therapist of the narcissist in their life. It's not your responsibility as a partner, as a child of a narcissist, or even a friend.
Their wordsIn 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.
Therapy needs two people who can work together. Whether the alliance causes good outcomes or merely reveals a patient who could form one is an open question.
Their wordsIn 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.