Internal family systems (IFS)

Their wordshelp the parts out of the extreme roles they've been forced into, help them transform into their naturally valuable states

Their wordswhich is to have all the parts come to trust self as a leader

Their wordswe have to have a kind of apology and a healing experience where self has to earn their trust

Their wordsthe third goal is to have the parts harmonize with each other

Their wordsto get permission to go to the parts that are stuck back there and get them out and unburden them

Their wordsgoing to exiles, what I call exiles, without permission from the protectors and creating this big backlash from protectors

Their wordswe'll often hook up with somebody who resembles our original Perpetrator, for lack of a better word

Their wordsthey start to have more self in their relationships. They're not gonna put up with that in the same way