TT161 - No Bad Parts and the Self in Healing with Dr. Richard Schwartz, Internal Family Systems (Transforming Trauma)

Richard Schwartz · 48m · podcasts.apple.com ↗

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5:16

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Therapy starts with the protectors, asking their permission before going to the stuck parts.

Their wordsto get permission to go to the parts that are stuck back there and get them out and unburden them
4 min later
9:35

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The first goal of IFS is to help parts out of the extreme roles they were forced into so they return to their naturally valuable states.

Their wordshelp the parts out of the extreme roles they've been forced into, help them transform into their naturally valuable states
9:51

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The second goal is for all the parts to come to trust the Self as a leader.

Their wordswhich is to have all the parts come to trust self as a leader
1 min later
11:15

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The Self has to earn the parts' trust through apology and a healing experience.

Their wordswe have to have a kind of apology and a healing experience where self has to earn their trust
11:20

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The third goal is for the parts to harmonize with each other, not disappear.

Their wordsthe third goal is to have the parts harmonize with each other
2 min later
13:47

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As people heal they bring more Self into relationships and stop putting up with what they used to.

Their wordsthey start to have more self in their relationships. They're not gonna put up with that in the same way
1 min later
15:16

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People often partner with someone who resembles the person who first hurt them.

Their wordswe'll often hook up with somebody who resembles our original Perpetrator, for lack of a better word
3 min later
18:43

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The biggest mistake in IFS is going to the exiles without the protectors' permission.

Their wordsgoing to exiles, what I call exiles, without permission from the protectors and creating this big backlash from protectors