Mari Andrew
Writer and illustrator, author of Am I There Yet? and Out of the Blue; writes the newsletter Out of the Blue on grief, joy and everyday attention.
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Their wordsIn the current social media zeitgeist, pain is regularly rewarded over joy.
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Their wordsReality hands us two truths at once, and when we can't stomach both, we eliminate one.
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Their wordsAdult people are comfortable when their expectations match reality, which is not how the child world works.
- 7 weeks earlier
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Their wordsI am fully aware that disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality
↗How to score your lifemariandrew.substack.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsOne of the many problems with being human is that we're Completion Freaks.
↗How to score your lifemariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
- 3 weeks earlier
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Their wordsSpring in all her manic pixie unpredictability and dreamgirl flakiness models for us that growth is nonlinear and full of contradictions.
↗Everything I Loved in Springmariandrew.substack.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsEvery act of desire involves giving something up, and we don't usually call it sacrifice because we're too busy being delighted by what we picked!
↗Everything I Loved in Springmariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
- 13 days earlier
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Their wordsPerfect friends are not possible. Instead of wondering how to change them, perhaps try being just a tiny bit more patient, and see how they might end up surprising you.
↗How to make friendsmariandrew.substack.com 1st of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsYou see, I don't think making friends is hard after your 30s. And, I made several of my best friends after they got divorced.
↗How to make friendsmariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 3 in this piece
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A person does not need a friend group to find people for everyday activities and errands.
Their wordsThat said! I don't believe you need a group for the activity partners you're looking for. I don't even think you need friends per se for these day-to-day adventures.
↗How to make friendsmariandrew.substack.com 3rd of 3 in this piece
- 4 days earlier
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Pursuing efficiency and maximizing productivity too aggressively causes things to go wrong.
Their wordsEfficiency is what TV remote controls are good at, but whenever people try to maximize their productivity in the speediest way, things start to go south.
↗Take your timemariandrew.substack.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Their wordsThe paradox of human life is that it's so long and so short; we have so much time and we could use so much more of it.
↗Take your timemariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
- 8 days earlier
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Their wordsthe economy now asks every creative person to essentially become a small media company, which is a very specific skill set that has nothing to do with why most of us started making things in the first place
↗On Monetizationmariandrew.substack.com 1st of 2 in this piece
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Putting a price on creative expression makes it suffer, while giving it away freely lets it thrive.
Their wordsI know my work will suffer if I put a price on creative expression that is as sloppy and homespun as spaghetti, and I know it will thrive if I give it generously and get messy while making it.
↗On Monetizationmariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 2 in this piece
- 2 weeks earlier
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Their wordsWhenever humans experience situations where we are closer to our animal selves than usual (needing to use the bathroom, having periods, giving birth, raising a baby, being sick), we usually behave as animals do: instinctively, urgently, and impolitely.
↗Surprises of Motherhoodmariandrew.substack.com 1st of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsI no longer think the problem is individual behavior so much as structural failure: a world with so little margin, tenderness, or infrastructural mercy that people are forced into constant friction.
↗Surprises of Motherhoodmariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsI don't think the continuation of the species is some niche, selfish lifestyle choice, nor do I think people without children should have to constantly absorb the consequences of a structure that isn't helping either of us.
↗Surprises of Motherhoodmariandrew.substack.com 3rd of 3 in this piece
- 4 weeks earlier
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Their wordsIt only goes to waste if you would find joy and meaning in using it, but you don't because of insecurity or outside voices.
↗How to find your passion in lifemariandrew.substack.com 1st of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsBut, your 'calling' will never involve constant discomfort. If you are passionate about a political issue but you hate crowds, you do not have to go to protests.
↗How to find your passion in lifemariandrew.substack.com 2nd of 3 in this piece
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Their wordsOur dumb economy might prize a certain talent more during a certain period of time or place, but that doesn't mean you should.
↗How to find your passion in lifemariandrew.substack.com 3rd of 3 in this piece