Belgian-American psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs; hosts the podcast Where Should We Begin? and writes on desire, commitment and infidelity in couples.
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Their wordsThe first step in stress-regulation is our ability to identify and articulate our feelings, whether it’s to ourselves, our diaries, or our loved ones.
Their wordsif you are not aware and accepting of your own feelings, then you won’t connect with the feelings of the people around you. You may even shut them down because you don’t allow your own.
Feeling with someone is not the same as telling them their feelings are valid. Empathy can be chosen, and a therapist who only validates stops being a companion.
Their wordsif you are not aware and accepting of your own feelings, then you won’t connect with the feelings of the people around you. You may even shut them down because you don’t allow your own.