← People and their mental models
6 claims Annie Wright made fit 4 mental models. Most often: Attachment patterns, Early templates, The pursue-withdraw cycle. Everything they said here.
How a person learned to seek safety shows up most when the emotional stakes are highest, and what looks like a character flaw is often a learned alarm.
Mental modelThe pursue-withdraw cycle
Their wordsThey’re not fighting about the dishes. They never are.
Their wordsEFT’s attachment framework consistently provides the most precise clinical map for understanding what breaks and what repairs intimate bonds.
What a child learned about being seen, comforted or let down becomes the template adults run on: in relationships, in expectations, even in addiction.
Their wordsSchemas do not appear out of nowhere. They’re the direct result of core emotional needs not being met in childhood.
Their wordsBecause schemas aren’t just thoughts; they’re deeply felt, somatic truths.
One partner moves toward, the other away, and each move feeds the other. The cycle sustains itself without either person being at fault.
Mental modelAttachment patterns
Their wordsThey’re not fighting about the dishes. They never are.
Their wordsRelationships aren’t optimized by strategy. They’re healed through vulnerability.
A label like evidence-based can describe what was studied rather than what works. Who was compared with what, and how long the treatment ran, decide what a trial can show.
Their wordsTalk therapy alone often struggles to shift the felt, physiological charge of a stuck memory, even once the story is fully understood.