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Ava Huang · 1 Oct 2026

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Our reading
It is good that no single person can give us everything we want.

Their wordsIt is good, actually, that we can't get everything from one person. The worst way to relate to this is to bemoan it.
Our reading
What we end up liking in a partner is often not what we expected to like, and what we value most is not necessarily what we fantasize about most.

Their wordsWhat we like is often not what we anticipate liking, and what we value the most is not necessarily what we fantasize about the most.
Our reading
Desire arises when we notice another person's power and autonomy.

Their wordsDesire, after all, arises when we notice someone else's power and autonomy.

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