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Heat is relevance (and other things I've learned about healthy heat)

Priya Parker · 23 Aug 2026

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  1. Our reading

    Holding heat in a conflict is a learnable skill, not a natural talent.

    Their wordsI tell you this because it’s how I know that holding heat is a learnable skill. I did not come to this work with a natural talent for it.

  2. Our reading

    Long-term communities need conflict as well as love.

    Their wordsAnd in twenty-five years as a conflict dialogue facilitator, I’ve learned something deeply counterintuitive: long-term communities need love, and they also need conflict.

  3. Our reading

    Groups can be as threatened by unhealthy peace as by unhealthy conflict.

    Their wordsWe ricochet between silence and explosion. Neither is helping our groups become stronger, clearer, or more connected. Groups can be as threatened by unhealthy peace as they are by unhealthy conflict.

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